Douglas Stone on the nuances of feedback, quality of relationship, willingness to be vulnerable

vutran | April 2, 2023, 4:21 p.m.

“Feedback isn’t just about the quality of the advice or the accuracy of the assessments. It’s about the quality of the relationship, your willingness to show that you don’t have it all figured out, and to bring your whole self—flaws, uncertainties, and all—into the relationship.”

— Douglas Stone, Thanks for the Feedback

Douglas Stone on the key on growth

vutran | March 26, 2023, 4:44 p.m.

“The key variable in your growth is not your teacher or your supervisor. It’s you.”

— Douglas Stone

James Clear on staying with the problem to unlock insights

vutran | Jan. 1, 2023, 2:28 p.m.

"It is nearly impossible to have your best idea the first time you think about something.

The most likely way to uncover important insights is to frequently revisit a problem. The longer you're in the game, the more ideas bubble up to the surface.

Time unlocks insights."

James Clear on choosing how to carry the load

vutran | Dec. 22, 2022, 10:26 a.m.

"You don’t always get to choose the load, but you can choose how to carry it." 

— James Clear

James Clear on surviving for the accumulation of rewards

vutran | July 30, 2022, 6:49 p.m.

"What are my top risks? How can I mitigate them?

What are my unique strengths? How can I leverage them? 

The objective is to survive long enough to see the rewards of your advantage accumulate."

— James Clear 

Shane Parrish on specific advice vs general advice

vutran | March 28, 2022, 1:25 p.m.

“When starting a new job, find the person that just got promoted from the role you got hired into and ask them for specific advice. The word specific is important. These are the tools, the techniques, the skills that worked in the same situation you’re coming into. If you talk to someone who climbed the mountain a long time ago, odds are the specific advice isn’t as relevant as things have changed.

You control your starting position more than you think. For specific advice, find someone a step or two ahead of you. For general advice, find someone older who can put things in perspective.”

— Shane Parrish

Erik Naggum on reaching up instead of punching down

vutran | March 25, 2022, 1:25 p.m.

“The secret to feeling great about yourself is not to be found in searching for people who are less than you and then show yourself superior to them, but in searching for people who are more than you and then show yourself worthy of their company.”  

-- Erik Naggum