Better's Today

Osho on make peace with being alone and the capacity to love

vutran | July 17, 2020, 7:14 p.m.

“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it's not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person--without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.”

― Osho

Matthew Syed on adjusting assumptions and approach using failures

vutran | July 15, 2020, 8:34 p.m.

"Failures tell us that there’s a gap between our expectations and reality. Use them to learn what went wrong and how to adjust your assumptions and approach."

— Matthew Syed, Black Box Thinking

Matthew Syed on actively seeking contradicting evidence

vutran | July 15, 2020, 8:33 p.m.

"Use immediate feedback from repeated practice or experiments to correct your errors, refine your approach and sharpen your skills. Test your theories to confirm what you know while concurrently seeking contradicting evidence to disprove your theories."

— Matthew Syed, Black Box Thinking

Matthew Syed on open-loop systems

vutran | July 15, 2020, 8:32 p.m.

"OPEN-LOOP SYSTEMS

In open-loop systems, data from failures are collected and examined. The resulting patterns and insights are translated into practical learning points to facilitate system-wide improvements."

— Matthew Syed, Black Box Thinking

Brian P Moran on the Rigor of Greatness

vutran | July 14, 2020, 5:39 p.m.

"Rigor! Rigor is the adherence to standards and structured process. There is scientific rigor, academic rigor, and educational rigor. Honestly, it requires rigor to do anything at a high level - whether you desire to play a musical instrument, compete in an athletic event, or achieve any other goal."

— Brian P Moran

Brian P Moran on intentional imbalance

vutran | July 14, 2020, 5:23 p.m.

"The concept of life balance is an illusion. We’re led to believe that somehow we can spend equal time in all the various areas of life – family, work, spouse, health, friends, and community. That’s just not possible. And even if it were, I doubt it would create the joy and fulfillment that it promises.

Rather than seek life balance, we should strive for intentional imbalance. There will be times in life – seasons if you will, when you decide to spend more time in one area over another. There is nothing wrong with that. The key is that it is intentional, and by design."

— Brian P Moran